I've been writing but sadly I have been writing too many things at one time so to update my list from Mid March:
United we stand?? in progress
Disney wrap up..... (completed) Yay!
Entrepreneurs??? or Greedy people?? (Scrapping this one)
Play Play Play - in progress
Post Grad (completed) Yay!
Cruise Wrap up (completed) Yay! See below
To medicate or not to medicate??- in progress
Monday, May 4, 2015
I've been writing but sadly I have been writing too many things at one time so to update my list from Mid March:
Posted by Mom at 6:16 AM
Sunday, May 3, 2015
We took our, what has become annual Spring Break Cruise with another family. We love to cruise and find it a great family vacation because there seems to be a little something for everyone.
This year we went out of Baltimore our home port if you will and it was easy easy easy!! We rented the "party bus" to get us to the port. That was a fun ride filled with cocktails and laughs.
Once on board the shenanigans continued and the kids took off to explore. Needless to say I think we were all over served by the time dinner rolled around.....
After dinner it was time to unpack the bags and get everyone settled for a weeks worth of fun. We had 7 bags (there were 5 of us) I unpacked the kids things then went to unpack ours and that is when I discovered we had a bag missing.
We double and triple checked for the kids room and ours but it was pretty clear the bag was not here. We made our way to guest services where I just assumed our bag would be. No luck they had no unclaimed luggage. I was starting to panic. I wasn't entirely sure what all was in the bag but I knew it was the majority of our stuff.
The hubs still had cell connection and called our neighbors to have them check the house. Sure enough it was sitting in the bedroom right were I left it for the hubs to take down tot he car. I was pissed to say the least. Pissed because I should have known to take it down myself, pissed at the money I was going to have to spend, pissed at the effort to pack and it was all wasted. Just PISSED!!!
I woke up the next morning and took inventory of what we did have. We had our formal clothes for dinners, I had my swimsuits and cover ups as well as workout clothes. That was it!
Our first port was Grand Turk but is wasn't until we had had 2 days at sea. I was able to find swim trunks for the hubs in the gift shop but they were a bit on the small side and he had to sit very carefully so as not to rip them down the middle.
Once in Grand Turk I was able to shop a little and I was getting use to my sparse wardrobe. The hubs could care a less he has always said "pack me a couple of T-shirts a pair of swim trunks and some flip flops and I am good to go". He lived up to that comment.
We had a blast the remainder of the cruise.We spent time at the bar in Margaritaville, we shopped in Freeport and the kids danced on the bar at Senor Frogs, and we enjoy Carnivals private island half moon cay for the day.
We all agreed when we were on the way home that is was one of the best cruises yet. We are already planning our 2016 cruise though that may be to Europe for 2 weeks to celebrate the hubs turning 50
Enjoy the slide show of our cruise adventure...
|A picture slideshow by Smilebox|
Posted by Mom at 4:34 PM
I'm all for education.... sadly I am not one who enjoys it or thrives on it I thrive on learning but not in an academic setting. I am one of those who have a deep belief that not all education must take place in a classroom. A piece of paper does not define you nor does it signify superiority.
I am entitled to them and they will not always fall in line with what others want to hear or feel, and that is perfectly ok.
Well that didn't stop him from moving forward with his endeavor. At first I think we all were lured into thinking this wouldn't be that bad. He down played the time commitment and did what he needed to do to get by course work wise.
Classes started to get more intense, his work as well as mine, started to get more intense and I became more incensed. Why were we doing this? What was this going to achieve for our family? I understood the pride element for him, the want to achieve a bucket list item. But it was starting to take a toll. I was becoming increasingly more resentful.
We both pulled away and went in very separate directions we stuck to "our worlds" and ventured out of them only to co-parent. We allowed ourselves to completely disconnect at a time when we clearly needed to be connected, and we sought solace and refuge elsewhere. I can only speak for myself when I say I know I was not a champion of this endeavor but I also did not go out to sabotage it either. I slowly simmered and "sucked it up so to speak". Sucking up comes at a price and it eventually catches up with you.
Now for those of you who like to play devils advocate, I am sure your first response is "you're married, you support each other in each others wants, dreams, hopes and goals" and to that I say "yes you are absolutely right" but...... that can only occur when both are totally and completely on board and the situation, conditions and considerations are laid out in such a way to allow for such a huge undertaking.
That was not the case here! Little to no thought was given to the impact this would have on all aspects of our lives. It wasn't just a weekend a month, it wasn't minimal, it was a lot, it was intense and it was damaging. I was vocal though not nearly to the point I wanted to that this was a mistake and a selfish one at that. However we stayed the course. Hell, he talked about leaving the program because of the stress both he was feeling and the stress and anger coming from me, but I am the one who asked him to continue. Why would you do that you may ask? Since I have clearly shown in my words above I was not on board? Because I am practical, we were a year in, quitting or "taking a break" was not going to help anyone. We needed to power through and not prolong the process.
There are many a tasks, projects, bucket list items, and endeavors I want to take on and he would totally support it, however I know that if it is not going to benefit all of us it is not something I should take on. In my mind it is a very selfish act and one that could cause great strife on the home front. There will be time for that later in life.
Stay tuned for the tales of dissertation writing.......
Posted by Mom at 12:46 PM
Saturday, April 11, 2015
Posted by Mom at 2:54 PM
Friday, February 27, 2015
I haven't really been able to write my review of my Disney races for various reasons.... mailing because I have a lot to say and not enough time to get it all out and edit it.
However I have had a lot of PM's about my flat something for Disney. Who knew I had readers let alone ones who were intrigued by what the post would be made up of???
So a little background before I let you view my flat something journey at Disney.
I am a huge Muppets fan! I remember being a kid on Saturday night at 7pm parked in front of the TV primed and ready to sing the theme music....
It's time to play the music
It's time to light the lights
It's time to meet the Muppets on the Muppet Show tonight
It's time to put on makeup
It's time to dress up right
It's time to raise the curtain on the Muppet Show tonight
Brings ya back doesn't it??? :)
I have been known to nickname people based on the characters of the Muppets for instance I have named someone in my office Beaker, a guy who coaches a baseball team in my sons little league is The Swedish Chef and I may have even called a few people Ms Piggy a time or two. My son is animal, I have known many a Statler And Waldorf over the years, and well... Kermit is me because its not easy being green.
But then there is Fozzie Bear... who doesn’t love Fozzie bear???? All he wants to do is make you laugh and be your friend. Whenever you need a pick me up Fozzie is there. He is loveable, cute and dependable. He is Kermit’s sidekick and without him the Muppets just aren't the Muppets.
So I took Fozzie Bear (FB) on my trip. Seemed like he deserved to have a little fun. So below is his adventure. Now while I would have loved to have taken him on the runs and in the park for my visit I was a bit fearful of losing him and that well that would have been catastrophic.
So instead he played it safe and hung out with my on the plane, at packet pick up and in the room. He even made friends with Running Mickey during his Disney stay.
Posted by Mom at 2:41 PM
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
I am not a public speaker, sure I can carry a conversation on with a group
of people I don't know and I can even tell a joke or 2 to make them laugh.....
that is where my public speaking ends.
I know why I feel this way....it goes all the way back to elementary school and being intimidated because I didn't read very well and I was terrified when called upon for my turn to read out loud to the class. I never really recovered from those experiences and it only got worse as time went on.
As I progressed through life there became the need to speak in front of others more and more. It never got easier and it still to this day riddles me with the same fear I had as a 5th grader reading out loud.
I remember when I was very pregnant with Izzy, I was told (noticed I didn't say asked) to speak about a project I was working on my company. So 7+ months pregnant I get up in front of about 200 folks and give a talk. Terrified!!! I managed that process right down to what I wore to work that day so I ensured people wouldn't see how much I was perspiring. I made it through ... I had some nice comments afterward ...but it didn't make it easier.
In the last 5 years I have had to speak more and more in front of people, I will say it has gotten a bit easier but I still shake in my heels when I know I need to present.
There is a great program called Yearup which was featured a couple of years ago on 60 Minutes and I found it to be very intriguing. This program takes underprivileged youth who may otherwise not get the education/ training they need and brings them together industry to provide them opportunities. These kids have an incredible amount of talent but lack the opportunity to showcase that talent. This program provided them the opportunity.
For 6 months they participate in intense Business or IT training, then for the following 6 months they work for one of the many companies who have partnered with Yearup. They must keep to strict standards while both in the classroom and on the job. A good number of these kids end up with Jobs which then leads them to other various avenues to pay for school and receive the education they desire.
I inquired about become a mentor a while back and at the time they had more than enough mentors. I was asked if I would be interested in coming to speak to a group. I said yes but was non committal on a date.
I was unsure what I would talk about, I don't think I am an inspirational or motivational speaker and the idea of putting something together made we flush with fear. But then something changed and I decided I did need to do this, not because I wanted to conquer a fear but because I wanted to give back some of my good luck and fortune.
I had an outline to talk about my challenges growing up, not only at home but in school. I was going to talk about achieving dreams I never thought possible because of hard work and I was going to talk about failure and that failure is a part of the success process and how it humbles you and makes you appreciate more what you ultimately achieve.
I had a speech, I wasn't going to read word for word because good speakers don't do that, they deliver a speech with ease and passion. The speakers I look up to make it look easy and effortless and better yet keep those they are speaking to engaged.
I began, I was nervous, I started with a joke as I have always been told that is a great icebreaker and a laugh from the audience will put them and you at ease. I spoke, I stuck to my points but I found I expanded on them and I relaxed and the passion I had for my life and my accomplishments and my message came through and best yet I didn't die in the process.
This group of young people were amazing and they have so much to offer, they were full of questions and ideas and no doubt are grateful for the opportunities they have been given.
I wish them all the best of luck in the years ahead and hope to one day connect again with some of them to see how their stories unfold.
Posted by Mom at 7:48 PM
Wednesday, February 18, 2015
Friday, February 13, 2015
I was writing a post about music and while writing it I of course listened to music and a slow love song came on and then I got to thinking.....when was the last time I slow danced?
Sounds silly huh? I am not a dancer my moves look like those of Elaine from Seinfeld. Though I do have a mean car seat dance and let’s not forget the sitting on a stool in a club seat dance! But the slow dance is one that is meant for two and it has sent many a middle schooler or Jr High student into a complete tizzy, and it has set many an adult relationship in motion.
I remember being a young girl at St. Mary's Elementary and going to my first dance. I was scared to death! Back then I could get away with some swaying a fist pumping as my upbeat dance and didn't look like a complete dork. (Ok maybe I did but for the sake of this story I am going to go with I
didn't.) However, when the upbeat dance music stopped you were then in the dreaded slow dance mode.
I recall it like it was yesterday it was like a slow motion game of musical chairs, guys awkwardly standing on one side and girls on the other while the DJ encourages the boys to find a girl to ask to dance. Girls in their clicks giggling and staring at the boys, yet trembling hoping that "he" would pick her.
I too had that I hope "he" picks me moment several times. Alas, it never happened, I'd get paired up with some poor guy that felt it was his obligation to dance or be forced to look like a loser standing alone.
I think there were several reasons I was not picked to slow dance within the top 15 girls. 1) I was not a cute girl, I was like many at that age, at a very awkward stage 2) I was taller than most of the boys and what boy wants to dance with a girl taller than him? and 3) I was not one of the cool girls. So 3 strikes and you’re out ....right??
I am happy to say I lived through my middle school years and on to my high school years were I outgrew some of my awkwardness and "blossomed" a bit if you will. I did get to slow dance with boys at dances albeit I was terrified doing so. I've since learned to love the slow dance.
So back to my reason for this post...... to talk about the slow dance. When writing the music post and the types of songs that you slow dance to were playing, what popped into my mind was this.... as an adult there are limited opportunities to slow dance let’s face it; it is usually at weddings maybe a party or two but that’s it! So my hope for you and me is this ... that you are swept off your feet and asked to slow dance by those you love. Slow dancing lets you slow down and enjoy those you are with or those you seek. The slow dance says I am taking time for you and want to be with you and only you. So grab the one you love or the one you like and suprise them with a slow dance... it may spark something or just let someone close to you know you care.
So SLOW DANCE on…
Posted by Mom at 9:00 AM